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SOCIAL PHOBIA? HOW TO MAKE WINTER A TIME OF FUN INSTEAD OF FEAR

Oct 19, 2015

November - the Start of Cosy Winter Times

How can we still have fun while coping with the daily tasks of life, not to mention work and family? Well, one way of having fun is to make social contact with friends and acquaintances through enjoyable activities. One thing worth remembering is that social contact is often free - it costs nothing to visit or phone a friend.
But what about if you have a phobia about socialising, which means that instead of having fun you end up feeling very anxious? It may surprise you to know that very many people have social phobias. If you do it's hard to have fun in the way that you would like to. Instead of enjoying social contact, you tend to avoid it and find your self becoming more and more isolated. Being isolated is not fun and it can be lonely too.

I started this blog by saying that Winter can be the time for cosiness...and fun. It may sometimes be noted that young children have fun naturally. They want to connect with people and, even before going to school, if they are taken to a playground or playgroup, they will naturally gravitate to other children, given time to settle, from the age of about 3 or 4. Before that age children tend to play alongside each other rather than connecting directly, because they need the security of the main carer before they develop the maturity to be able to play directly with other children.

Someone may develop a social phobia because of something that happened when they were still a child, or some other event in adulthood that was unpleasant and put them off connecting with others. By using hypnotherapy, it is possible to find ways of coming to terms with that unpleasant experience, whether from childhood or later on, and be able to move forward so as to enjoy the present and look forward to a future feelng much more confident in a social setting. Hypnotherapy is very relaxing and enables people to much more easily come to terms with difficult past experiences and put them in the past where they belong.

When you are very relaxed in the state of hypnosis, it is then possible to visualise the kind of social experiences you would most like to have, in a realistic and satisfactory way. You may have heard that pilots are trained to fly aeroplanes by simulating flights? Well, this is true. The brain reacts in exactly the same way when simulating an experience as when actually having that experience. Through hypnosis, someone is enabled to not only visualise but to hear and see the experience and 'anchor' it, just like clicking onto a file in a computer. It is sometimes said that the brain is like a computer. Well, this is true, but the brain is a hundred times more complex than any computer, and consequently more powerful too. It is said that we only use one tenth of the capability of our brain power! Imagine what you could do if you were able to acccess more of that power? Well, through hypnotherapy you can, you can create the experiences you would like to have through simulation and, as long as they are realistic, your brain will file away that simulation and enable you to work towards it over the next days and weeks, without even realising you are doing so! That is, your brain will act unconsciouly to produce the kind of experiences you TELL it to. That is why it is important to come to terms with unpleasant experiences and put them behind you, so that you can imagine the pleasant experiences you would like to have in the future.

So be sure you are aware whether you are giving yourself negative or POSITIVE messages - because if you give yourself a negative message like: "I'm never going to be able to strike up a conversation with a new person at the party I've been invited to" - then you won't! Whereas if you give you brain a POSITIVE message about the forthcoming party - and you can pick your own message to suit you - your brain will obey you obligingly and give you that pleasant experience when you attend the party!

So here's to the season of Winter - feeling healthy, happy and relaxed!

Celia Bird

FLYING PHOBIA? ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAY!

Jun 10, 2015

Flying Phobia - Holiday Time

Now the summer has started some of you have started thinking about, or even planned, your holidays. With the unreliability of the English summer - sometimes sun, even heatwave, sometimes cold or even rainy - it's difficult even to plan a BBQ in this country with any certainty that it will definitely come about. This is when people think about flying to warmer climes - Spain, Greece or even long haul to somewhere like the Maldives! We know that if we go to southern Europe or to a long haul destination known for sunshine we can we sure that we will have a reliably sunny, warm holiday.

This is where flying comes in. It is many, many times quicker to fly somewhere than to go by boat, train or car. It is also considered to be the safest form of travel, much safer than traveling by car, for example! Unfortunately, although many people know this to be true logically, they still feel unsafe emotionally when flying.

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HOW TO COPE WELL WITH STRESS

Mar 28, 2015

We may not realise it, but stress is neither good or bad - it's more like temperature - we can either be cold or hot and neither is necessarily better or worse than the other. But want we want is to be able to cope with that process, to decide how to cope with whatever the temperature is at a particular time. For instance, if it's freezing cold in winter, we turn the heating up or put on warm clothes; if it's sweltering hot in summer we wear loose, light clothing and stay in the cool place. In other words, we can move up and down the temperature scale to make ourselves wamer or cooler. It's just the same with stress, or what we could call, more helpfully, levels of alertness and relaxation.

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WEIGHT MANAGEMENT MADE EASY

Feb 25, 2015

How many of us are trying to manage our weight successfully and healthily at the moment? Now that Spring is finally on its way, despite the cold weather, many of us want to look good and feel healthy. With so much in the media about the health problems that can arise as a result of obesity, we have more knowledge than ever before about how to eat healthily and the importance of exercise.

Now it may seem obvious, but the reason why more and more people are defined as being obese these days is because we do not naturally exercise in the way people did in days gone by, before technology took care of so many of our practical tasks. I'll give you a few examples:

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PROCRASTINATING? MAKE A NEW START!

Jan 07, 2015

Sometimes it can feel that January is a time of pressure, pressure to do what we know we SHOULD do. When we feel pressured instead of 'GETTING UP AND GONG FOR IT' we can PROCRASTINATE instead. I know I have felt like that sometimes. But amazingly, I have found that there is a way to reach goals without feeling pressured.

Is your goal to lose weight, get on top of work schedules, or become more confident socially? Whatever your goal is, at times the distance between A (your present state) and B (goal) can seem impossible to reach - so you give up. However, as soon as it seems easy rather than difficult to reach your goal, you feel differently, you start to think differently, and then you do the things which enable you to reach your goal instead of procrastinating.

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